Time and time again I’ve heard clients, colleagues, friends and even strangers wish for the most achievable of things.
“I wish I had more money.”
“If only I had a steady stream of income from my freelance business…”
“I wish I had an extra week vacation.”
“Working this much would be tolerable if I sat near a window.”
“I don’t know what to do next because I don’t know where that company is in the hiring process.”
“I wish I knew how So-and-So did it, because then I could be successful like that.”
“I wish I knew what So-and-So had to get that promotion over me.”
“Why hasn’t that person given me what he or she should know I really want?”
Can you relate to any of these? What do you wish for?
How can you get what you want?
As creatives we often think so far outside the box that we forget the box itself. What if it doesn’t take the next big idea or an elaborate plan, sweat and hard work to get what you want? What if all you need to do is ask? Ask for what you want.
If you want more money, ask for it. Ask your boss for a bonus or a raise. Ask your freelance clients for more money, more projects and more referrals.
Ask to sit by the window all day or even part of the day.
Call the company you applied to two weeks ago and ask where they are in the hiring process. Then ask that company for any next steps you can take.
Ask So-and-So what they did to get where they are. Ask your boss what So-and-So had to get promoted over you and what you can do to be the promoted person next time.
And please ask – that person that hasn’t given you what he or she should know you want – for what you want!
What if others should know what you want?
Many times other people simply don’t know what we want, what we’re wishing for, what will make us happy. To put it bluntly – they are too busy wishing for themselves and doing everything else that they have going on in their lives to stop and consider what you may be wishing for. Or, worse yet, they may assume you are wishing for the same thing that they want.
For instance, I’ve seen it happen all-too-often, advertising creatives reach a certain point in their career where they don’t care as much about the money as they do their vacation time. Yet, employee review after employee review they end up unsatisfied because more money was thrown at them instead of that time off that they so desperately desire. And why? Because they haven’t made it clear to the decision-makers that they value vacation time the most. They don’t get what they want because they never asked for it.
What happens when you ask for what you want?
When working with my clients one-on-one, we create a clear plan on how to best ask for what they want so not only do they have the confidence to ask but also 9 times out of 10 they get what they want. (There are best practices when asking and things you can do to improve your odds of getting what you want.)
Can you guess what the #1 response is when my clients ask for something from someone? What do you think that someone says?
“Oh, you could have had that sooner if you’d only asked.”
Imagine you had what you are wishing for. Now, go ask for it.
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